That is the way parents have been operating for generations.” Without a roadmap, you are never satisfied and you are never done. Job ambiguity, in any profession, is a recipe for overwork, inefficiency and insecurity. “Parenting feels like an ambiguous job.How do I be there for my kids and not lose myself?” “Parenting- it’s the most time-stretched, conflicted priority years.Disorganization and lack of systems inhibits us from being able to make those contributions- whether that’s to our jobs, our families, our friends or to the world.”
“We need to tame the chaos in our lives, in whatever form it takes, so that we are free to make our unique contribution.The first few minutes of reconnection (wake up, after school, before bed, etc) make sure you aren’t focused on what needs to get done- but just reconnect.We need to recognize that kids need short bursts of undivided attention delivered consistently- not long blocks of time delivered erratically.It’s not healthy to be so focused on your kids that you have nothing for you- or the opposite that you are so focused on your own life that you have no connection with your kids.Make sure you are having fun- reading a book, painting, sitting still, getting a manicure, garden.Then “arrange” didn’t take over facetime. They also limited the conversations around logistics- arrange. Three to 5 times during the day- they’d check in with the other. The couples who had the strongest marriages while raising kids mastered these short bursts and brief check ins with their spouses.Smaller packets of time, frequently delivered rather than small blocks of time, delivered occasionally. Two things that keep us from practicing self care is guilt and our approach.Sleep can not be your only form of self care.You are to gaining anything by depriving yourself of sleep and doing one more thing.We create guilt when we take self time.You need relationship, connection and joy during the parenting years- it’s not all about one more thing! You’ll miss the pleasure.Watch feeling like you need to do “one more thing.”.
You can still achieve the goal- but with three levels of performance. What does perfect look like? What’s the minimum I can do that still gets the job done? The middle is the moderate.
What the principle of Max-Min-Mod means and how it can help us.
How the job description can inform out to-do list and how we can apply this framework.Why we need a job description as a parent.The New York City-based Julie Morgenstern Enterprises has been successfully in business for over 25 years. Julie has helped thousands of people transform their homes, businesses, and attitudes about every kind of clutter. She is an internationally renowned organization consultant and sought after speaker who has shared her expertise on The Oprah Winfrey Show, The Today Show, and more. Julie Morgenstern is the author of Time to Parent, and five previous books, including the New York Times bestsellers Organizing from the Inside Out and Time Management from the Inside Out. How do we do this? DO we do all of this? To hold our hands and help us all shift from having it all to getting it right in the moment- is best-selling author, Julie Morgenstern. There is so much to do- so much to balance! In the age of extracurriculars- from travel baseball, soccer, gymnastics, piano, to tutoring classes, art and enrichment, the question of how to fit everything in, complete the car pool, get dinner on the table, help with homework, get to the store, get some work done, give your kids undivided attention-and still take care of yourself-seems nearly impossible. Parents have struggled with how to manage their time for generations.